My partner and I have found a couple we really clicked with. Even though we met via SwingLifeStyle.com we became friends first and swinging partners second. This is great because we all enjoy hanging-out even without the premise of things leading to sex and it’s totally not awkward (things usually do lead to sex).
An additional perk of being friends first is that we have become comfortable enough with each-other to “play” separately too. Up until now we had been “same room only” swingers due to personal comfort levels.
Yesterday I had my first one-on-one swinging “booty call” totally alone while my partner was at work. My partner’s only “condition” was I take a photo or two for her to see later. We hung-out at my place, had some great sex and then eventually met-up with with both of our partners to hang-out and have dinner together.
It’s crazy awesome to have this level of trust and comfort with each-other. This is exactly why we got into swinging and are loving it. This being said we may not exclusively be wanting Friends With Benefits for all of our swinging, but it’s really cool if and when you find it.